Jay graduated from East Brunswick High School in 1999 where he earned All-Division honors as an attackman and was chosen to play in the Gil Gibbs North-South All-Star Game. He helped start the program at EB in 1996, playing Varsity all 4 years. He went on to play for Wesley College from 1999-2004 in which he was a three-year starter as an attackman where he led his team in goals his senior year. He was selected to the PAC All-Conference team as well as the PAC All-Conference Academic Team his senior year. Coach Lynch started his coaching career at his Alma Mater in 2004, as an assistant coach, coaching with his former college assistant coach, Mark Grilo, running the offense. He then coached at St. Joes High School (Metuchen) from 2005 to 2006, where he helped coach and run the offense and man-up units. He continued his coaching career at Jackson Liberty High School from 2007 to 2012 where he was the head Varsity Lacrosse coach as well as an Assistant Football Coach during his tenure there. Many of his players went on to play at the collegiate level and had successful playing careers. Coach Lynch is currently a Middle School Vice Principal for Old Bridge Township Public Schools, where he has been since leaving Jackson in 2012. He also helps out with the middle school lacrosse team there as well. He resides in Manalapan with his wife, Nicole, and two sons, Aiden (6th Grade) and Danny (little laxers), and his daughter, Mikayla (little laxers).